The 4th of July, commemorating the signing of the Declaration of Independence of the United States of America from Britain, has always been fraught with ambivalence for me. On the one hand, it holds many great memories I’ve had with my family over the years and newly created ones. And on the other hand, much of the meaning and representation of this holiday is lies, … Continue reading What Is the 4th of July to Me?
Let me start off by giving some context. We are still in the middle of a global pandemic as a result of novel coronavirus, or COVID-19, or rona, or whatever we want to call it. The rates of infection have not even remotely started decreasing in the U.S. In fact, many states are seeing increases in daily cases. While we don’t know everything about COVID-19, … Continue reading Getting A Toddler to Wear a Mask
This is the true story of two women who chose to live together, get married, and try to have a baby. Find out what happens when things don’t always go as planned and start getting REAL. If you watched The Real World like I did, then you know that into like the back of your hand. Haha. But, in all seriousness, this is our indeed … Continue reading 1. Introduction: How We Got Pregnant
B and I started dating in 2012. We met in December 2011, became official in January 2012, and moved in together a short four months later in April. Though, she moved her cat to my apartment long before that. So you know, the literal definition of Uhaul Lesbians. (Here’s the full story of how we met by the way!) We admittedly moved relatively quickly in … Continue reading 2. The Decision To Have A Baby
So, we were going to grow our family and had to figure out how to do it. This is a vital step for same-sex couples, one that many opposite-sex couples take for granted. We could choose to adopt, carry a child, use a surrogate, etc. If we chose to adopt, there are the laws around same-sex adoption that might impact our ability to do so. … Continue reading 3. Adoption, ICI, Sperm, Oh My!
Hello and welcome to fourth installment of this journey. Heehee! Okay, but in all seriousness, I hope you have already read the other three parts before you got here, because I am not catching you up. We left off with us deciding on carrying a baby and going the ICI route. Of course, our next step was deciding a) how to get the sperm, and … Continue reading 4. The First Try
Ok, so I obviously have this very public blog. I also share quite a lot on Facebook, where I certainly tag B almost every single time I talk about our kid. She and I also have a shared, very public, Instagram account…though, at this point it’s a “family” Instagram account because there is SO much L content on there. Look, if I’m going to be … Continue reading Why Our Story Matters
Last Wednesday was rough for me, but honestly, it always is. Not Wednesdays, but it was March 5th, the 19th anniversary of the shooting that happened at my high school. I knew it was coming, I always do. It never surprises me. I tried to get myself mentally prepared for it and I can usually get through the day relatively unscathed if I stay off … Continue reading Trauma, Forgiveness, and Moving Forward
This weekend, we got rid of L’s pacifier in probably the most random way possible, which honestly kinda fits perfectly with who we are. Just to cut to the chase: we lied. Let me go back to the beginning, that picture is L the second day of being in this world. Literally the day he was born, one of the nurses was like, usually if … Continue reading Bye-Bye Pacifier…But We Lied.
People without kids are always acting like they shouldn’t say they’re tired around me, but I say tired is tired; we don’t need to compare. And truth be told, most sleep deprivation I’m having these days, unless he’s sick, is 100% my own bad decisions. We did some work early on to make this a possiblity. Okay, maybe I shouldn’t take all of the credit; … Continue reading How I Got My Kid to Sleep